Thursday, May 26, 2016

6 Ways Not To Punch a B&^@ In The Face & Keep Your $^*t Together.

I have deep within me, the capacity for rage.
Yes, this peace loving, hippy, priestess knows RAGE.
But I am talking the kind of rage where you see red then forget about slashing tires or breaking a guitar or punching a whole in the wall or worse. 
I have done those things. I am not proud of those things and I have atoned as they were a life time or two ago when I was young and ego filled. Gulp.

To err is human. To grow, evolve.

Evolution is knowing the exact explosive buttons within me.
I have carefully calculated ways to both honor and defuse them.
Over the past decade, I have worked diligently on the root causes of such things and made a commitment to myself to never be that low vibrational deliberately.
Unforeseen circumstances to some, are now possibility for magic and miracles through my purposefully crafted lenses. I love life no matter who or what.

The opposite of Rage is Peace and or Love.  I actively choose that.  It just feels good.....better, best.

However, emotions - all of them - are clues.
Negative emotions are only such if we label them that way but also the ones regarded in the lower vibe have quite a heavier impact when we try to resist that they are real or surfacing.
Surely no one is sunshine and lollipops one hundred percent of the time.
And that my friends is the point of this particular piece of word work today.

I want to share with you all of my recent vulnerability so that you know we are all in this together.

Tuesday I waited almost four hours in line for a TSA security pre screen card for our upcoming trip.
My partner & I drove over an hour just for that awesome game of patience.
Lovingly, he looked at me on the way home and said "You were so nice to everyone that came in contact with you. That could have been the most miserable situation but you were like a ray of happiness."
"Practice.  And it's a choice. Every minute.  It's a choice."

Wednesday however was a different story.  Please note: I love Wednesdays!
It's my only day off. I love to rock out in the car and I am totally in my zone.
I love the farmers market and getting my errands done and catching up on personal calls .....then boom.
On this particular Wednesday, my pink colored glasses cracked when I saw... $#@!^** her.

Now for the record.  I have seen "her" almost every week along my Wednesday route.
And, I will not lie, it's been quite a lesson in self control and wellness blessing projection.  This woman has gone out of her way to hurt me on so many levels, emotionally, spiritually and there are rumors to her wanting to end my life.


But seriously, every other time I see her I send her blessings as well as all of the people in her life. I know she is hurting.  I know she has been hurt.
But on this day, whether it was the moon and stars in conjunction with HERanus I don't know.  All I know is ...I wanted to throw my steaming hot cup of coffee on her and tell her to shut her F%$*ng mouth already. And to send the message to the band of haters she has conjured.
And to stick it where the sun don't shine.
And to choke on all of her projected feelings and lies.
And to eat my fist too!

But of course...
I didn't.

I wouldn't.
I couldn't.
No way. No how.
I took a vow, made a pledge, promised my divine and myself that the one way to peace was to bear my crosses...hexes, witches.
So it be this. Me....peacefully turning my cheek to the Facebook posts and coffee shop gossip pow wows regarding me.

Reframing this kind of maddening attention, one's ego can almost be flattered.  But that is slippery.  Regardless, something within me, vibrates in an unpleasant way for her and it became real, on the spot.

Which leads me to my recipe:
How Not To Punch a Bitch In The Face & Keep Your Shit Together.

1. Walk Away.
Or just keep walking- ahead.  One foot in front of the other.
Move on, physically in the moment.
Count to ten.
Remember that at one time you were happy and carefree?  It's there inside of you.
It's in five, four, three, two....
Breathe it in and out with every step you take until your vision becomes less a burgundy shade of hot blood and more real time.

2. Affirm.
You are not the opinions of others.
 Say it.
"I am not the opinion of others."
Any one else's opposing opinion to your energy is a manifestation of something within them,
which you most likely trigger.  Pay attention.
Everyone has an opinion. None of them are any of your business.
Also: You are reflection of something that they do not like within their own being.
"I am a mirror to their flaws."  "I am triggering their pain."
END THE CYCLE with "I am ending the cycle."

Then....if and when you need even more....

3. Flip a bitch.
For one moment, realize that YOU are that person. Parent trap it.
Welcome their authentic vibration. All of it.
Feel what it is like in their shoes.
Hurt people go out of their way to act out and hurt people.
Mad people do it over and over again which is the true definition of insanity.

4. Just Breathe.
You may or may not be able to stop drop and meditate and quite understandable.  No one can tell when they are going to be triggered.

If you are in a public situation like I was, however
breathing deeply and counting in for three counts,
holding for three counts
 then letting go reminds me... that everything that we do - comes back to us three fold.
In my short life I have learned, witness and often repeated:
Impulsive behavior leads to a lifetime of consequences. 

If you are however in a situation where something came at you via phone call or email and you do have 6 minutes to watch some amazing video and listen the sounds of someone centering back into earth then may I politely suggest this guided meditation.

5.  Shake it off.
Lawd! Knows I have had my beef with Taylor Swift but MUSIC
is my first love and it takes me to a place where I can be safe within my own body and vibrate through the rhythm and beat the emotions that I am feeling.
On that day....I drove into the situation I didn't know what about to happen happy
listening to Coldplay's Birds on repeat.
I drove away raging to Metallica's Blackened.  
And did I rage! I let my anger for all of the things I wanted to but never said to come up through my toes and shoot out my skull all to the tune of Lars Ulrich and the gang.
Within four minutes, I immediately felt better.  I felt release.

6. Throw Your Hands Up.
To your higher power mostly.
Whoever it is that you honor and converse with personally in the scheme of Universal Love, turn it over to them.
Surrender the past, the present moment and the outcome.
Send a blessing to anyone involved in heart palpitations you are experiencing.
I mean ANYONE. If that person triggers someone or something else within you that needs loving attention let it bubble up to be healed.
In the moment you may want so badly for the person(s) triggering your pain to feel your pain, but it's not karmetically cool.  Dig?

Bonus things to do to keep your shit together.
If you have one near by, grab it and ask the ancestors or angels to guide your eyes to a message that you need to receive in that moment.  If it makes you laugh....great! If it makes you go hmm...well, this isn't just about the other person being a jerk don't forget - it's also in some way about you.

Which leads me to...*** Flip another bitch
and be ultra kind to everyone else you come in contact with.
Again, if you are stuck at home or in a cubicle you can shoot some energy toward someone in need or decide which charity you are going to contribute to with your next paycheck.

Wash your hands.  Seriously. No joke. If there is a bathroom near by put some soap on that shit to get the germs off you.  The negativity.  The bad vibes.  See them lovingly swirl down the drain and out of your life.  Let the water wash over you and peace flow within you like a river flowing to the sea.

Consultathesaurus. Finally a magical creature known as a Thesaurus can list the direct opposite feelings of rage for you and just by reading them over - at least three times, you can be in a less elevated state.

Antonyms for rage -

We have a rule in my house.  If there is something in your head, a song or something ugly that someone said to you and it's on repeat in order to stop it..... sing or listen to
BENNY AND THE JETS.  It is instant the effect it has.  Try it once. You'll see.

And that is my very own personal recipe for not cutting or punching a B and keeping myself in the vow of grace and peace.  It's not easy.  Especially when it's not just one person that can trigger you.
Let me tell you but it is so much better than the consequence.

What do you do to switch out from a bad mood?
How do you come down from a level ten to a two? Got any advice that can add to the list above?
 Would love to hear about it HERE.

Next time - I will give you pointers on how to clean up your mess if you did have a moment of seeing red.

And with that....
I leave you with all of my vulnerable, human LOVE -

Monday, May 2, 2016

There is no room for H8 in the White House.

The White House has not been stained by Obama's presidency.
Which is what most people who are screaming that they want this country "great again" will argue when you ask them why they are supporting Donald Trump.

And yet none of Trumps supporters can actually site a historical source, or give reason beyond doubt about any of Trumps supposed policies other than 'building a wall along the border' and 'making Mexico pay for the wall' as loudly and angrily as they can.

The last time I checked, church or state or otherwise; separation doesn't bring anyone together.
It only divides.

And speaking of divide the corporations and businesses hiring the help that are willing to work for less than a living wage are certainly more of an issue than the problematic people of Mexico wanting to flee their own countries current state of affairs.

What Trumps presidential campaign has done for this country is put numbers and faces to the incredible amount of fear that Fox news and other dedicated paid for media outlets created since the start of the Bush administration's horrific charade on Iraq.

This presidential campaign has allowed racists to stand up and be accounted for and has given a voice to the ignorant who want to hold on to a feeling of 'being safe'.

The greatest threat to American's are American's more than any other terrorist organization and that has been seen time and time again at the hands of our nations children who take their parents guns into the hallways of our educational system and shoot to kill.

We have become a nation divide on this an many other issues including violence & mental health but the one you will hear about the most is who is and can and will be holding the all guns when it all falls down.

Trump was an idea to thwart other political running mates that got way out of hand according to his own PR rep who stepped down a little over a month ago.
And yet here we are with more violence erupting at the threshold of Trumps political rallies than any other candidate.
A nation divided not coming together out of the reason it was created in the first place, FREEDOM.
Trump got a second round of public support from the KKK today.

Another reason Trumps supporters want to be heard is because he clearly represents "The Good Old Days" that we have to get back to.
Every era has had it's political and socials issues and stigma.  And regardless of that feeling they are trying to call home there is no going back no matter how badly we pray for Doc and the Dolorian. There is only forward motion, movement, evolution and improvement.

In that sense, I truly do not want my daughter to be taught that hate in any form is ok.
I don't want her to believe that any leader of the Free world would be right in doing so.

My personal Facebook page has taken a lot of heat from my political views leaning a little less Republican and a little more towards well...Bernie Sanders.
People who didn't give me the time of day in high school have weighed in on my opinions and in not so nice of a tone. Remarkable really.

And in my thought bubble, it is a nightmare to wonder if North Korea and Donald Trump would come to a head to war head stand off if he got into "The White is Right House."
Do Trumps supporters know that other European countries have denounced the man and his candidacy?
Shall we build borders for those countries as well or be offended when they don't honor our passports?

I could go on but I will leave you with this thought:
If you do or don't vote that is on you.

Regardless of the circumstance or the issue, if you truly want America to be great in the future - when and where you can please choose love over fear.

Fear keeps us stuck in an era where guns and violence keep the war machine going and it is here where nobody wins.
Love takes us away from killing each other on our own soil, on "theirs" and puts us in a place where we can all sit at the table and eat together.

That ladies and gentlemen is honorable safety.  That is forward motion.


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