Sunday, April 7, 2013

4 Reasons Why Badmouthing Others is BAD For YOU.

I was talking today with a friend about the importance of words.  How you use them, positively, negatively any which way.  Words are like weapons.  Once you put them out there, they are pretty much impossible to take back.  Sure you can say you are sorry but it doesn't wipe the blood and guts off the floor from the initial bullet wound.  Forgiveness is key, but let's be mindful of our words from the get.  Dig?

Here's a repurposed blog to go along with those thoughts.

Everyone gets hurt. No one is perfect. People mess up. Mistakes are made. But the cross you bare when you badmouth someone else's questionable deeds or good fortunes, their life advances or personal tragedies is a very heavy one.

When you engage in loose lip service per say "warning" peers or anyone within earshot about someone or someone's "drama" or perhaps you seem to regurgitate the pain someone has caused you over and over to friends, strangers, clients, family members....well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you are creating a very slippery and unhealthy slope on your own behalf. 

Let's to be perfectly clear and woo woo at the same time: all relationships are mirrors. Which means that when you dislike something in someone else you're actually exposing the very deep profound dislike for the same precise qualities that dwell within you.  And then when you sprinkle that with gossipy trash talk, angry tweets or negative Facebook status updates (ambiguous or not) you move further away from both inner and outer peace.  And bonus! You deepen unnecessary negative chaos shifting that same energy back toward you.

Finally engaging in this type of behavior is super bad for you and your health and here's why.

It makes YOU look bad. Literally. When you engage in anything less than positivity your entire being radiates anger, jealousy, and bitterness.  Why should you care? Freedom of speech is what this country was founded on!  Right! And everyone is entitled to their opinion. But let's be honest, no one likes Carrie Cry Baby or a Negative Nancy or a Derrick Downer and your mouth looks so much better decked out in a smile than it does staining the name of another.  And after a while, you gain a rep that makes you the kid that no one wants to play with or invite to the parties anymore because your that
"friend" who brings everyone down.
So before you run your mouth
stop and ask yourself these questions:
Is what I am about to say kind? Is it true? Is it absolutely necessary? If the answer is NO to ANY one of those questions do yourself and everyone else a favor, keep your mouth shut.

Negative words create even
more negativity for youIf you are not familiar with the Law of Attraction you need to be. Like attracts like. It is that simple. What you say or think unconsciously or consciously becomes something and bounces back to you.  So while you are busy ranting and raving about "other people's karma" be very aware that you're creating a shit storm of your own coming right for you.
So focus on keeping your side of the street clear.
Glass houses are so easy to brake and are a terrible mess to clean!

You are being a brat. And being a brat is actually making you SICK.  Wasting your precious life energy on other people's stuff supports stress.
And if you are not hip to it, lots and lots of stress builds a pain body thus creating poor health and even worse cancer. But don't believe me.

It's not kind
A Course in Miracles teaches: Kindness created us KIND. But within every spirituality there is a simple foundation that pretty much declares basic human unto others as you would have done unto you. Be mindful of the way you treat others. If you run around like a raging lunatic spewing hate on any and everyone that "you think deserves it" or "is your direct competition" do you think people will go a step out of their way to be nice to you, wish you well or patronize your company?  NOPE.

A wise woman I know once said: if only put in practice the art of listening rather than constantly processing information and regurgitating nonsense. Then confusion and drama would be at a minimum and intuition and possibility would flourish and surprise you. 

My love and blessings of great health and prosperity to you and everyone around you!


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