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Jealousy: Your Worst Enemy.

Jealousy - this word, thing/concept has emerged repeatedly in the past few weeks in Facebook updates or people sneering when they've had a little too much to drink and let's not forget oh! within Political campaign madness.  

This not so sexy J word has made me take a giant step back & really try to understand so I wrestled with reasons as to why people would get wrapped up and or act out on such things.
In meditation, clarity came to help dissect the facets and nature of Jealousy's many meanings. Slaying by one.  I love it.
Immediately, I wanted to share revelation... 
Here's a tiny magnifying glass to be held to the nature of the ugly beast and the wrath it's ferocious green head brings. 


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feeling resentment against someone because of that person's rivalry, success, or advantages (often followed byof ): He was jealous of his rich brother.

When thinking about manifesting and creating big things in this lifetime, jealousy is your worst enemy.  Why? Because there in lies too much time thinking about what you LACK.  
And focusing on your lack creates more ....well nothing. 
There is no abundance of anything good in this.  

Displacing responsibility for what is or isn't happening within your reality keeps you suspended from reaching your highest potential. 

What to do? Get clear on why you are focused on the person or persons who's success you envy.  What is it about where they are in the moment that has triggered you?  Each person whether we love or dislike them represents something deep within ourselves that needs attention.

So switch gears. It's easier said than done but with practice you can! 
Change your jealousy into inspiration. You can pull yourself out of the green swamp of yuck and become motivated to be your own superhero.

Irony: When you celebrate others success soon you will know sweet, sweet success of your own.
Jealousy keeps you far from that reality.

characterized by or proceeding from suspicious fears or envious resentment: a jealous rage; jealous intrigues.

Oh! Sneaky suspicion! Assuming Assumption. We've all heard the saying. Assuming - makes an ASS out of You and Me. But when you let assuming consume you and the great green monster sneaks in very bad things happen. The rifts in your relationships become deeper.
We pull away from what could be. What's good and possible.
We create space filled with stories that most often aren't true.

Go to the source. Ask yourself, big picture where is your emotion stemming from?  Perhaps you have unresolved issues of abandonment from previous relationships or left over from your parents.  
Keep your side of the street clean before you project bad behavior, ugly facebook status' or hurtful words on another person that may not have anything to do with what's really going on inside you.

inclined to or troubled by suspicions or fears of rivalry,unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims: a jealous husband.

Recently, I had someone ask if the deceased could be in a new relationship on the other side. 
The concern sprung after the beloved who had crossed over made it known that his love for the person who was questioning was now indeed unconditional. 
He wanted this person to 'move on' and  love again if she so chose to in the remainder of her days here.
 He made it clear that her happiness above all was most important.
This did not sit well with her at all.

From where I sat, I wish I could have snapped my fingers and made her fears (&tears) disappear. 
I tried to explain the best I could that there was no room for this in UNCONDITIONAL LOVE .  
That this type of love knows no boundaries or limitations especially once we get "home". 

In my own daily practice, I try very hard every day to love even those who have hurt or continue to hurt me. Sometimes I have better days than others. Unconditional Love is hard but it doesn't just have to be familial (Parent/child - brother/sister). 
The more we practice love in all it's capacities shapes and forms the more love we will receive.  

If you have lost love there is a lesson that needs to be addressed within your own being.  Stop focusing on the other person and what they are or aren't up to.  You can't control other people but you can control your reaction.  It may seem impossible but letting go is an act of love and practice makes makes perfect.

solicitous or vigilant in maintaining or guarding something:
The American people are jealous of their freedom.

When I read this, I think of my four year old and teaching her to share. What (who) is it that we are holding on to and why?  
Holding on to material possessions (or people) is just the same. 
It's pointless. We can't take stuff (or them) with us when we go.  Release and accept.  Be more flexible.
Keep it simple.  Know where you are expending your energy and why. Your own happiness may be trapped too ....let it be.

In summary, Jealously is wasted energy. 
It's a juvenile tendency that most adults need to outgrow.
You could be spending such time on getting clear about what it is that you truly want from life, grabbing your own life by the balls and truly living your life like it's golden.
Getting caught up in the green smoke of nothing creates well, more of the nothing. 

However, let's flip the script for a moment.  If you are experiencing someone projecting their own green demons on you or your recent success or the new relationship/friendship you are in there is a way to stay grounded and protected...repeat after me:
     "It's more about them then it is about me."

At first glance that statement seems filled with ego but it's true.  Another person's digs or insecurities has less to do with you and more to do the lessons they need to be addressing. 
So after all these years it's finally clear : 
Jealousy is your worst enemy.  

Members of the White Light Army, here is a sword, golden breast plate & permission to slay that green monster when it's ugly head reveals itself within or around you but only if you:  
Understand the when and the why it's happening. Sit with it, acknowledge it but don't become it. Then, after you've gotten some clarity make your own divine to do list to propel yourself forward more positively. Know that you can move freely about this earth to acquire the great possibilities life has to offer ...when you are free of Jealousy.

Sending you an abundance of pre -Beltane Blessings. I'm so very excited to share in the love of the season with you & look forward to carving out much, much love.


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