Friday, April 27, 2012

Jealousy: Your Worst Enemy.

Jealousy - this word, thing/concept has emerged repeatedly in the past few weeks in Facebook updates or people sneering when they've had a little too much to drink and let's not forget oh! within Political campaign madness.  

This not so sexy J word has made me take a giant step back & really try to understand so I wrestled with reasons as to why people would get wrapped up and or act out on such things.
In meditation, clarity came to help dissect the facets and nature of Jealousy's many meanings. Slaying by one.  I love it.
Immediately, I wanted to share revelation... 
Here's a tiny magnifying glass to be held to the nature of the ugly beast and the wrath it's ferocious green head brings. 


 [jel-uhs]  Show IPA
feeling resentment against someone because of that person's rivalry, success, or advantages (often followed byof ): He was jealous of his rich brother.

When thinking about manifesting and creating big things in this lifetime, jealousy is your worst enemy.  Why? Because there in lies too much time thinking about what you LACK.  
And focusing on your lack creates more ....well nothing. 
There is no abundance of anything good in this.  

Displacing responsibility for what is or isn't happening within your reality keeps you suspended from reaching your highest potential. 

What to do? Get clear on why you are focused on the person or persons who's success you envy.  What is it about where they are in the moment that has triggered you?  Each person whether we love or dislike them represents something deep within ourselves that needs attention.

So switch gears. It's easier said than done but with practice you can! 
Change your jealousy into inspiration. You can pull yourself out of the green swamp of yuck and become motivated to be your own superhero.

Irony: When you celebrate others success soon you will know sweet, sweet success of your own.
Jealousy keeps you far from that reality.

characterized by or proceeding from suspicious fears or envious resentment: a jealous rage; jealous intrigues.

Oh! Sneaky suspicion! Assuming Assumption. We've all heard the saying. Assuming - makes an ASS out of You and Me. But when you let assuming consume you and the great green monster sneaks in very bad things happen. The rifts in your relationships become deeper.
We pull away from what could be. What's good and possible.
We create space filled with stories that most often aren't true.

Go to the source. Ask yourself, big picture where is your emotion stemming from?  Perhaps you have unresolved issues of abandonment from previous relationships or left over from your parents.  
Keep your side of the street clean before you project bad behavior, ugly facebook status' or hurtful words on another person that may not have anything to do with what's really going on inside you.

inclined to or troubled by suspicions or fears of rivalry,unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims: a jealous husband.

Recently, I had someone ask if the deceased could be in a new relationship on the other side. 
The concern sprung after the beloved who had crossed over made it known that his love for the person who was questioning was now indeed unconditional. 
He wanted this person to 'move on' and  love again if she so chose to in the remainder of her days here.
 He made it clear that her happiness above all was most important.
This did not sit well with her at all.

From where I sat, I wish I could have snapped my fingers and made her fears (&tears) disappear. 
I tried to explain the best I could that there was no room for this in UNCONDITIONAL LOVE .  
That this type of love knows no boundaries or limitations especially once we get "home". 

In my own daily practice, I try very hard every day to love even those who have hurt or continue to hurt me. Sometimes I have better days than others. Unconditional Love is hard but it doesn't just have to be familial (Parent/child - brother/sister). 
The more we practice love in all it's capacities shapes and forms the more love we will receive.  

If you have lost love there is a lesson that needs to be addressed within your own being.  Stop focusing on the other person and what they are or aren't up to.  You can't control other people but you can control your reaction.  It may seem impossible but letting go is an act of love and practice makes makes perfect.

solicitous or vigilant in maintaining or guarding something:
The American people are jealous of their freedom.

When I read this, I think of my four year old and teaching her to share. What (who) is it that we are holding on to and why?  
Holding on to material possessions (or people) is just the same. 
It's pointless. We can't take stuff (or them) with us when we go.  Release and accept.  Be more flexible.
Keep it simple.  Know where you are expending your energy and why. Your own happiness may be trapped too ....let it be.

In summary, Jealously is wasted energy. 
It's a juvenile tendency that most adults need to outgrow.
You could be spending such time on getting clear about what it is that you truly want from life, grabbing your own life by the balls and truly living your life like it's golden.
Getting caught up in the green smoke of nothing creates well, more of the nothing. 

However, let's flip the script for a moment.  If you are experiencing someone projecting their own green demons on you or your recent success or the new relationship/friendship you are in there is a way to stay grounded and protected...repeat after me:
     "It's more about them then it is about me."

At first glance that statement seems filled with ego but it's true.  Another person's digs or insecurities has less to do with you and more to do the lessons they need to be addressing. 
So after all these years it's finally clear : 
Jealousy is your worst enemy.  

Members of the White Light Army, here is a sword, golden breast plate & permission to slay that green monster when it's ugly head reveals itself within or around you but only if you:  
Understand the when and the why it's happening. Sit with it, acknowledge it but don't become it. Then, after you've gotten some clarity make your own divine to do list to propel yourself forward more positively. Know that you can move freely about this earth to acquire the great possibilities life has to offer ...when you are free of Jealousy.

Sending you an abundance of pre -Beltane Blessings. I'm so very excited to share in the love of the season with you & look forward to carving out much, much love.

Monday, April 9, 2012

Silence, Fasting & Shedding Grievance Gut.

Comfort food/drink got the best of me in March.

It's April. Just like the Lord has Risen so to is it time to emerge from our cocoons.
Personally I have buried myself in one woven in sadness and fear the past few weeks. Yes, that's real.

Getting out now is going to take some work.  I've stumbled upon the answers in meditation last week.

First I'd like to recommend a vow of silence. (3-6 hours)
Followed by a 24 hour juice/water fast.
Being present to whatever messages, miracles or creativity comes in that time.
Last, taking a day of service - completely serving others in prayer, outreach or by giving someone in need a helping hand.

This formula of change is great medicine. Especially if you're looking to deepen your spirituality or your intuition.  Disconnecting from your normal every day reality, even if for a few hours allows you to connect to your highest self.
Getting into Nature is highly recommended.

I'm on the fast portion of this transformative series,
completing the vow of silence yesterday on a
walkabout in Jim Thorpe, I found so much.
I also let go of a lot of stuff too.

So as we each collectively do our spring cleaning,
I'd like to raise a cup and say cheers to shedding some much needed onion layers. Layers from winter that we've inherited to keep us grounded and warm. The winds are howling outside also whispering that we leave our bullshit layers behind closed doors.
The Sun is out now reminding us politely that the layers of fat that prohibit us from being our most beautiful, and healthiest selves is being asked to leave.

Here's to getting to the core of who you are and liking it.

Good luck on your journey this spring. Godspeed.

Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Thoughts Become Things. Love, The Universe.

Spreading the word: (So demands TUT today and I am inspired).

The entirety of living deliberately
can be summed up in just three words.


Of course, beliefs are important too,
but your thoughts can
change what you believe.

And WORDS are important, they're your thoughts 

that become things the soonest.
So be choosey in that you use.

How can you make the one's you use truly profound?

I find that too many people are on talk overload.
Talk, talk, talk. Talk-ity talk.
No one listens.  No one knows how to.  

We are so wrapped in ego.
And Ego gets loud.  

For example, people are always looking to say 
something next 
or over the other person's words,
their story and space.

We aren't giving each other the space to 

breathe in between thoughts and words so 
there is hardly real connection. 
There is definitely no real kindness in that either.
Words are flooding our process 

- not consciously-  and we
 are becoming more unconscious because of it. 

Thoughts become things. 

Choose your words wisely.

Most recently, because of this phenomenon alone, 

I've come to conclusion that listening 
intently is way more important 
than saying the wrong thing and hurting people.

Words hurt.

Thoughts become things. 

ACT accordingly for the greatest good.

Listening with intention is hearing beyond 

words being said.
It's connecting with emotion -

empathy, body language and connection 
not just 
in the physical but also in the visual.

Listening intently is responsible, not responsive.
It's action filled with patience and kindness. 

Try: listening intently.

Taking action is absolutely critical, 

because more than anything else, it creates.
It speaks volumes over words.
Action is the Answer in so many cases.
Yet so many choose not to act but stay 

hidden behind or to fight harder with words.

Try: Engage in conversation without words ..
Which also includes: no texting, tweeting, 

phone dialing, letter writing, blogging, 
sky writing, street tagging....

Engage people with out words.  Can you?

Recently, clients are reporting lots of conflict 

not only within themselves but with others.

Thoughts become things.  
The world is an amazing place, conflict free.

Fighting is not the Action or the Answer wisest.
Thoughts become things. 

Act accordingly for the greatest good.

Remedy: Stop fighting your self.
1)Choose your thoughts, your words wisely. 

Be gentle. Be kind.

2)Know that the human being next to you 
or on the bus or in the same room as you 
sitting just across the way is in someway 
suffering on some level also 
be kind to him/her just the same.

3)Engage in that kindness without words.

There is something to be said about acting 

with empathy, 
it is the road less traveled.
It's so much easier sometimes to choose 

conflict and pain because we are so used to it; 
it's learned behavior.  
It's all we hear, see, talk about from the news 
to the last text you sent that 
was heated and so not cool. (Dude)

Slow down.  

There are no room for miracles in that space. w
Because.  Thoughts become things.
TRY: Breathing  instead of talking. 

Listen to yourself and figure out which amazing 
things you want more of in your life.
Connect your thoughts, words & actions to 
make it so.

Like attracts like. 

Presently, the law of attraction is continuing
 to serve us chaos because that's 
who we are every day.  
But when we step out of the chaos and 
into gratitude the world suddenly 
becomes a safer space. 
Especially if we do it in larger numbers. 

Thoughts become things.


Stop the thoughts.
Relax on the words......
Act accordingly for highest good of all.
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The White Light Army   
It's our mission to replace judgement and fear 
with love and compassion, 
even to those who are not kind in return.

If you believe in Jesus, THE WLA does too. 
If you believe in Buddah or Allah well then, 
The WLA agrees.
If you believe in Bob Marley, Mother Theresa, 
Russel Simmons, The Dali Lama, Oprah, 
Ellen or anyone who lives their life 
serving the greatest amount of good 
on behalf of the largest number of 
our brother and sister human beings then we say 
put your lighters up and pray, dance or sing with us. 

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